ARE YOU READY FOR MARRAIGE?

 

Below are two lists that will help you analyse whether you are properly preparing yourself to be a good spouse. Whether you are far from marriage or already considering a particular person, examine them carefully for where you are eficient. It should also be of interest to you whether a potential spouse is doing or will do the same. A word of caution: Do not apply either of these lists in reverse. Some have done this by making a checklist of all the things the other party in the marriage should reflect. Others have even been tempted to rate men or women through use of such lists.

       There was a somewhat famous (more like infamous) example that occurred when I was going to college. One male student had rated a variety of co-eds, including a range of very specific strengths and weaknesses, on a list that he inadvertently dropped on the student lunchroom floor. Not only was he embarrassed, but also certain girls were hurt once his list became known.While you should certainly be carefully assessing any prospective spouse, be equally careful of following this inverted approach. Remember that people are not cattle being bought and sold at auction. However having a detailed list of weaknesses, that you are using to work on yourself, is a healthy exercise.

  

Will I Be a Good Husband?

Will I Be a Good Husband?

 

  • Will I study her reaction physically, mentally and emotionally and encourage her to confide her hopes and dreams in me?
  • Will I always demonstrate my affection not expecting her to always take my love for granted?
  • Will I try to see things from her perspective as well as my own to avoid becoming set in my ways?
  • Can I lead interesting discussions of important issues without it ending in an argument?
  • If we do have a misunderstanding or a peevish outburst of irritation, will I put it behind us, settling the difficulty one way or the other – or will I sulk or bout, inviting the problem to return?
  • Will I make allowances for irritability brought through over-tiredness and build-up of little household annoyances, pretending not to notice it?
  • Will I inspire her and take an interest in her hobbies and in her more ambitious ventures that are necessary for her happiness?
  • Will I take an interest in her clothes, show her my appreciation and pay her the little compliments and the attention that I did in our courting days?
  • Is our mutual relationship ever-growing in understanding, sympathy and depth?
  • Will I spoil her friendships with others by unnecessary suspicion when she has proven her loyalty and devotion?
  • Will her life be enriched, her interests broadened and her happiness and general well being increased by marrying me?

 Will I Be a Good Wife?

 ·        Will I help him to achieve a fuller life by constantly endeavouring to broaden our horizons?

·        Will I use tact and sympathy with his little personal problems and help him understand himself?

·        Will I study him and get a clear idea of all the little things that make him realize how much he contributes to my happiness?

·        Will I overlook his little irritabilities due to overwork and fatigue, pretending not to notice them, making allowances for the strain that the workplace can be and that the responsibility of a family can bring?

·        Will I see that he has enough time for relaxation and quiet thought?

·        When my feelings are roused and out of proportion due to misunderstandings, will I always try to better understand him, our mutual relationship and myself, suspending harsh judgment with thoughtful self-inquiry?

·        Have I noticed any mannerisms in myself that may be irritable to him?

·        Will I let him enjoy women’s company without undue suspicion and jealousy, encouraging him to be sociable, and helping him to feel natural and at ease?

·        Will I allow him an evening off sometimes and not rely on or demand constant companionship?